We’re trying to share a creative energy and work out ideas, and some of them are bad ones.Or if the show is way across town and your only ride is with the band. of cynicism, here is a guide to relationship DON’Ts when dating a musician in a band. Even as a girl, I wholeheartedly defend the no-girlfriends rule. I’ve certainly been that girl who's gone to a dude’s band practice. Please, for the love of God, don’t go to sound check. Should I just write all affectedly in my goth diary? But if you’re just going to stand around and watch, well, then you’re an added dead weight that we’re metaphorically carrying.The key here is that even Chris Martin (who really ought to know better) allowed this "burden" to take precedence over simply getting over himself. If like me, you had visions of yourself hanging out backstage like Kate Moss, all red lipstick and Ray-Bans, fag in hand, well… Instead, you are quite literally the embodiment of "great…his bird's here", as his bandmates lament his imagined descent from iconoclastic pioneer to watered down beacon of Brita–filtered domesticity. On the other hand, when you're not in the building, any hopeful female admirers will have dissipated long before the band emerges at 1am arguing about van space and who isn't pulling their weight. But herein lies the crux of the matter: take away his "burden" and you've effectively stripped him of his raison d'être.4. and again and again the same patterns would repeat themselves that led to us breaking up. I perfected the “watchful girlfriend off to the side” stance — not possessively hovering too close, but also making it clear to both him and the other chicks that I was watching. You’ll be expected to go to not just some gigs, but probably their shows. Make no mistake: these are all serious things to consider if you’re dating a successful musician. But if you’re also a night owl, then this relationship could work out great. We put our souls into what we do, so we can’t help but take it very, very personally if people don’t like it — even if we’ve become successful doing it professionally. If you go to bed with a writer, expect to wake up with shit written about you.I have nothing but the nicest things to say about most of them . It’s normal to feel a little jealous, but there’s no point in getting too insecure because this will happen after show. If I’m in a relationship with someone, I of course want to support their career, but going to a bunch of gigs, especially ones that are late at night, can be a pretty hearty time commitment. Speaking as one of those people, it takes awhile to develop thick skin. This is another fact: unless he and his bandmates are explicitly sober, they’re going to be around alcohol and probably drugs, too, and oftentimes getting it for free. This is a saying from my friend, our former “Mind Of Man” columnist John De Vore.
He, however, has lived the life less ordinary forever and as such cannot fathom the prospect of being enchained in the corporate routine of work/sleep/death. And how you are now a witness to our weird, dysfunctional-family dynamic. I mean, if you’re gonna show up with a crane and a ladder and you're strong enough to carry an Ampeg 8x10 bass cabinet over one shoulder, you’re definitely invited. On top of that, we’re worried about you and how bored you are.If you are attending a sound check as an event, turn back now. Most likely, you’re really cool and a great person to hang out with for days on end which is why our bandmate is dating you. And do you really want to be trapped in a van with a bunch of people who haven’t showered and who keep cracking the window because they farted after eating dinner at a gas station? You don’t Do not, under any circumstances, except for certain circumstances, discourage your partner from being in their band.p .main-container #login input[type=text], .main-container #login input[type=password] .main-container #login input[type=text] .main-container #login input[type=password] .main-container #login div .main-container .remember-forgot .main-container .main-container .main-container #login div label .main-container button .main-container #social .main-container #social span .main-container #social span.facebook .main-container #social span.google .main-container #social span.twitter .main-container #social span.yahoo .main-container .main-container .